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Embrace the Positive

Now that you've removed all of the negative reminders of your past relationship, it's time to fill those voids with positive influences. Surround yourself with the good things in your life. Reconnect with family and friends for support. Remind yourself that there are positive forces in your life and beyond, and utilize them. Read more about all four phases in our Believe section. Find out more

  • anger- 6 months later

    still angry at times, but moving on with life. i decided the best revenge was a good life and that is what i intend to do. just recently bought a new home and will be moving soon, am also going to buy a new bed and some new furniture, try for a truly fresh start. still sad at times, because i had looked forward to a life together, but each day i realize that this may have been the best also for me. i am not constantly walking on eggshells, trying to make everything perfect. i don't have to ask before i buy something or worry if he will like it. plus we did not have the type of "good marriage" that i had always wanted. someone i could talk with and do things with, that i could plan the later years with. would love to travel, especially to tropical islands, but not at the point i am comfortable doing that by myself. i do get lonely at times, but have no real interest in dating. a nice male friend to do things with would be really nice. maybe i will find that someday, i am not in a hurry. i need to go slowly and understand myself better first. i have become much more spiritiual during this divorce, and have enjoyed thinking and reading more about God and his plans fo us. i want to make my life mean something, honor him in whatever way he can use me. i know that this life has so much more promise for me now.


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    Not Delusional but close to it.

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  • need opinion

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  • What is wrong with me

    I recently found out that I have a Love Obsession. It has been nearly 2 years long of heartache and wondering why it has not let up. I found a really good book that was written by Susan Forward called, "Love Obses...

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  • Starting to see the light....

    I just realized that today makes 1 month since we broke up. Its funny how time flies. I have come to realize that he was never the one for me, we were never meant to be, and he was never the end all be all guy, he w...

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  • The Time is Now

    I recently had a discussion with a friend about everything that has happened and I realized that I am not the sad and crying girl that I was. I was able to analyze my relationship and share experiences from it with ...

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  • Living for ME

    Since finding out my ex was cheating on me and still with that girl, I hve tried my hardest to distract the obsessive thoughts about him and her with filling my life with positive things. I have grown a lot in my re...

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  • Ready to Let Go

    Well 4 days ago came the news I was dreading to hear - he got engaged to someone out of the country and had only known thru phone calls and internet chats. I think after 3 days of crying on and off, I realized what ...

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