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  Let it go

  • 22 Jun 2012
  • Posted by skinnyminute

  For that last 9, yes I said 9 years, there has been this guy in my life. He comes and he goes. When we are together things are AHHHh-mazing. The problem, as soon as he is bored with me he moves on and leaves me. I c...

  For that last 9, yes I said 9 years, there has been this guy in my life. He comes and he goes. When we are together things are AHHHh-mazing. The problem, as soon as he is bored with me he moves on and leaves me. I can always tell when things are going bad in his "new" relationship because SURPRISE!! He is back. I met him when I was crazy young and it feels so comfortable but I think he is stopping me from meeting anyone new. I think of him as one of my best friends, he was there when I dated a guy that would hit and scream at me. So I feel like he protected and saved me, I dont want to let him go but what am I holding on to????

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  Really used

  • 17 Jun 2012
  • Posted by usedplenty

  My story is very simple really, I was married for almost 30 years when my wife died. We had total trust and never cheated on each other. After my wife died I met this women whom I helped move to my city. I really fe...

  My story is very simple really, I was married for almost 30 years when my wife died. We had total trust and never cheated on each other. After my wife died I met this women whom I helped move to my city. I really felt like I loved her and maybe I still do, in fact I am sure of it. As it turned out she moved in with me for a while, all the while looking for a place to live. What I didn't know was that she was corresponding with at least one other man. I found out later that her history was a pact of lies and I was just being used as a pawn to help her move from her old city. I gave her a considerable amount of money to get her life back and when she was finished with me she just starting distancing herself from me. On a few occasions I drove by her house in the very very early hours to find different cars parked in her drive. It has been almost 9 months now and I still can't get her out of my mind. I have so many mixed emotions it isn't funny. I know there is Jealously, I feel I could have done better when in fact I know I could not have. I know it would never work and I would never take her back in a million years but I still can't get her out of my mind.
  

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  She Dumped Me :'-(

  • 17 Jun 2012
  • Posted by Amor_Romantico_Latino

  I fell in love with this pretty little woman of 31, thin and short, with blue eyes, a beautiful face and hands, a lovely smile, voice and personality. I took her everywhere, helped her as much as I could, bought ma...

  I fell in love with this pretty little woman of 31, thin and short, with blue eyes, a beautiful face and hands, a lovely smile, voice and personality. I took her everywhere, helped her as much as I could, bought many things for her, fed her, and loved her like my child. She didn't take any precautions, my condom failed, and she got pregnant. I asked her to keep the child, but she refused, and asked me for $500 for an abortion. After the abortion, she began to hate me, and cut me off completely. I still love her, and I miss her so! :'-(
  

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  What have I done wrong?

  • 09 Jun 2012
  • Posted by misspretty

  I have been dealing with this guy for about four years. Note that that I said 'dealing with', not dating. We officially dated for a VERY short period of time within the four years, but I feel like I forced him into ...

  I have been dealing with this guy for about four years. Note that that I said 'dealing with', not dating. We officially dated for a VERY short period of time within the four years, but I feel like I forced him into the relationship and while we were in the relationship, he acted as if it wasn't what he wanted and it wasn't. This lead to me trying to break it off with him, but he said its not what he wanted but he continued to act is if he didn't want the relationship. This lead me to cheat on him. He broke up with me. But eventually 'forgave me'. We ended up having a child together, but we are still not officially together. He expects me to do girlfriend things, but won't make me his girlfriend. I am not forcing like I did before, I'm not begging. I understand that I hurt him before, but he has hurt me as well. Dealing with other females, while I carried his child, not sexually, but dealing with them. Well, he says not sexually. Recently, things have been great between us, but he won't make it official & I am tired of not being official. So, I told him that I can't do this anymore. Am I wrong? For knowing what I want? If he didn't want to deal with me after cheating on him, then he should have left me alone after that, right? HELP!

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  Lost Time

  • 08 Jun 2012
  • Posted by tisalouise

  I just recently went thru a break-up with my boyfriend of 4.5 years. I'm am in a very negative state right now because of the chain of events.
  
  Over this time I have built relationships with his family,...

  I just recently went thru a break-up with my boyfriend of 4.5 years. I'm am in a very negative state right now because of the chain of events.
  
  Over this time I have built relationships with his family, friends, neighbors and he mine.
  
  He had always stressed to me that he did not want to get married again (2x divorced) and I was ok with that but wanted a committment. Over the last 1.5 years he would do various acts of unkindness like standing me up for events we planned together, not returning calls or texts, being unavailable, etc. We remained together but I started to withdraw because I always give too much of myself.
  
  He would tell me he was sorry, he loved me, etc. and we remained together up until a couple of weeks ago. Not as much contact but still on the phone, texting and hanging out once in a while.
  
  I was floored when he called me to come over to his house and told me he was seeing someone else, one of my friends. This has been the worse pain as I feel betrayed by the both of them. Not that I felt that our relationship would continue but that she was my friend and I wasn't even talked to by him. I feel we should have at least talked about our relationship ending before he started to see someone....especially one of my friends.
  
  I have so many mixed emotions over this and my mind will not quit analyzing it. I have a loving relationship with his two girls and we continue to talk and see each other.
  
  I feel the friend has no conscience and moved in on a weak moment between us. I believe he was afraid of committment because of his 2 failed marriages and thought that if he committed to me, it would end up sour as well. Just one week ago he told me how much he loved me and was crying while doing so.
  
  So confused!!!!

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  Unexpected

  • 28 May 2012
  • Posted by venus

  After being in a long term relationship for almost five years (not to mention, being engaged for two of them) I decided it was time to start again. Two years after my breakup, my best friend's boyfriend (whom I will...

  After being in a long term relationship for almost five years (not to mention, being engaged for two of them) I decided it was time to start again. Two years after my breakup, my best friend's boyfriend (whom I will call P) introduced me to his best friend, J. At first, we were aiming for something casual, and at this point I just wanted to go with the flow. J and I discussed a lot about previous relationship, like the fact that he has been married and divorced twice. I didnt think much of this, because I just thought that he just had bad luck. The relationship kept moving in a very possitive direction. He would text me every morning wishing me a great day, and he would call me at night because he couldnt go to bed without hearing my voice first. It was something completely beautiful and unexpected, so I decided to give in. About six weeks ago, he changed, suddenly. He told me that he had some personal situations that he needed to deal with, but that they didnt have anything to do with us or the relationship, he just wanted my support thru this; which I gave him. I remember calling him on a Tuesday, but he didnt pick up (nor did he contact any of his friends). Things just got really weird after that. At the beggining of May, we attended P and my BFF's wedding. J and I were supposed to be together that day, but we went our ways. He spent the day with his friends, and completelly forgot I existed. When I called him the next day (because I wanted to let him know about his behavior) he just shut me out. I told him that I would give him the space he needed to think about our relationship. A week passed and no word from him. I decided to contact him because the silence was consuming me. When he replied, he just said that I had left him alone. The following Monday we talked on the phone, but didnt agree on anything. After that conversation, I started receiving emails saying that he was cheating on me, and giving me details about the woman he is with now. I found out that he had spent the night at her house from the emails that I got. Turns out that he is with a much older woman, 18 years older than him. Thru all this, he kept sending messages saying that I would always be in his heart an that he would never forget me. When I asked if he had someone, because his behaviour was far to radical, he denied it. I finally put an end to my misery and let him go, via text message because he wouldnt pick up my calls.
  
  Its been two weeks, and I still have trouble believing what has happened, I dont see him as two sides of the same coin, I just see two different coins. To make matters worse, I've been suffering from shortness of breath, chest pains, and restless-sleepless nights. I replay the good memories and find it extremelly hard to believe that it is the same person. I'm trying really hard not to harbor any negative thoughts or resentment or hate towards him (but with songs like "I pray for you" and "50 ways to say goodbye" it becomes hard). Talking to my friends help, but it has gotten to a point where I feel that I sound like a broken record, and I feel that they are getting tired. I has gotten so hard for me, that I wish I could just get on a plane and get as far away from here as possible. I just wish I could get some answers, to finally be able to understand why J did what he did; and ask him why he played with my heart.

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  Trying to admit that it wasn't a good situation

  • 26 May 2012
  • Posted by CHill

  I was involved with a married man, well, separated man you could say. We were together for 3 years and loved each other more than anything. He wouldn't get a divorce even though she lived out of state. We broke up b...

  I was involved with a married man, well, separated man you could say. We were together for 3 years and loved each other more than anything. He wouldn't get a divorce even though she lived out of state. We broke up because I realized that I was wasting my life. It would have never of worked, even if he did get divorced. I would have never of trusted him. Regardless of the situation, I am still terribly heartbroken. He gave me so much love and support...we talked about making a life together...why wouldn't he change his situation for me? I am worth more than someone who is attached to someone else. My heart has been ripped out of my chest and it's going to take a long time for me to heal.

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  Cheating Boyfriend

  • 25 May 2012
  • Posted by v.avila0

  I've been dating my boyfriend for about 5 years. A couple of weeks ago, I noticed he was acting strange. I trusted my gut feeling and grew suspicious, but cheating never came to mind. I chose to let go of all the ne...

  I've been dating my boyfriend for about 5 years. A couple of weeks ago, I noticed he was acting strange. I trusted my gut feeling and grew suspicious, but cheating never came to mind. I chose to let go of all the negative feelings because i had absolutely zero proof that he could be cheating. It wasn't until i received a message on Facebook from a girl who he was seeing behind my back. I found out that he had been sleeping over and of course having sex with her. I was completely devastated. I slapped him 9 times in the face when he denied everything. I could just not believe that he could do this to me after so many years, and when i ask him why, he has no answer! He doesn't know why he did it. Now he feels pretty guilty and is doing everything he can to make things better. But i ask myself how could i ever forgive something like this?? if i take him back, I'm going to question everything, what he's doing and who is with. I love him yes, but i should love me more. How do i make the right decision? Im just to hurt and angry to decide anything. A piece of me wants to give him a chance because i do love him, but the other piece of me hates him! I don't understand me. I just pray to the Lord Almighty that he give me the strength to get through this ordeal and help me make the right decision.

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