Get It Out
Before you can even begin to bounce back, you need to be positive — this means ridding your life of all negative aspects and influences. Let go of stress tied to over-thinking everything. Clear your head, put thoughts to paper - or better yet, say what you've always wanted to say to your ex by emailing us instead at the MyEx Mailbox (firstname.lastname@example.org ). Remove the remains of the past relationship. Don't turn to vices, don't rebound, don't have any regrets. Read more about all four phases in our Believe section. Find out more
- 14 Jul 2010
- Posted by ahodsonb
I had been dating a guy on and off for 9 years, throughout high school and college. He was a real charmer, and could make anyone fall in love with him. And he knew it. I was dating his best friend my freshman year in high school, and he saw me as someone to be conquered. He quickly snatched me away from his best friend, only to break up with me on my birthday. After the first breakup, I was pretty distraught, being as it was my "first love". A few days later he asked me out again, claiming I was all he wanted. He then broke up with me again a few months later via a letter given to my friend. This same situation played out for 9 years. He would always see me as the one who would always be there, regardless of what he did. And he would leave me every time something better would come along. Once he was done with her, he would come back. During the periods where we were separated, I dated another friend of his. Unfortunately, I was the hot mess that did the same thing to this poor guy that my ex was doing to me. The friend of his that I had been seeing in between our "relationships" asked me to marry him. I said yes. Ex freaked out, showed up at the wedding, raised hell, begged me to leave with him, and slept with a bridesmaid's sister when I said no. He called me all throughout my honeymoon saying what a mistake he had made, and wanted to be with only me. When I did not he began to leave me mean messages saying I was never worth his time. Clearly, if he kept leading me on for 9 years. I found out then, that he had slept with my friends, my friend's sisters, and possibly even some of my friend's mothers, as well as practically anything else that moved. As bad as everything was, and as many times as he broke my heart and shattered my world, I still find myself wondering "what if". He is a photographer and is getting married to one of his models that he has been with for less than a month. It makes me sick to think about, even though I am married to someone else. The really pathetic part is that I am a counselor and my job is to get other people through these same situations, yet I can't get over it myself. My husband knows all of this, and has been putting up with this for 5 years. Needless to say, their friendship no longer exists and my current marriage is at risk because of the hell my ex has created.