Get It Out
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- 29 Jul 2010
- Posted by AmyDG
We were together for 2.5 years. There had been brief periods of time when we had broken up, but we found ourselves together again. Our last "on" time was April 2009-April 2010.
Throughout our relationship, John had a tough time balancing work and personal life. His work was very time consuming and he was very driven by earning as much money as he could. I believed that he worked most of his waking hours. Well, apparently not.
Turns out that for the last go round of our relationship, he also had another one going with a girl named Ashley. I never knew of her existence and I am sure she didnt know of mine.
I only found out about her when it had been awhile since I had contact with him and being bored, googled him. What turned up? A notice for a MARRIAGE LICENSE for him and Ashley! Quite the surprise to me.
I pushed him for an answer via email. He finally called me 5 days later after I hinted that I will get an explanation by what ever means necessary. Our phone call consisted of him telling me that he had been seeing this girl. She got pregnant. He "manned up" and did the "right thing" and married her. I went off on him on numerous levels. Too much to get into here.
But the main issues that I had were that he didn't tell me. I had to find out myself two months after he got married. He never thought that he should make a clean break from the woman he'd been dating for 2.5 years!!! What also makes my blood boil is that he wanted to see me in the beginning of May. He got married May 13th. He wanted to sleep with me not even two weeks before his wedding????? He's so disgusting, I can't even believe I ever loved him.
So, now I am trying to reconcile all of my anger and hurt. I find solace in knowing that he is miserable being married to someone he isn't necessarily in love with, having a child that wasn't planned, all the while trying to deal with a superloaded work load. He will never get his life back and he'll regret ruining the good thing he had with me.
I'm moving on. I'm seeing someone who treats me better and shows me more respect. I have a terrific circle of friends and family to get through this.