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- 02 May 2010
- Posted by kristalblessing
It is almost a year since my relationship with a man I loved and cared about a lot ended on a very bad note..See back in July of 2009, a weekend that was beautiful and from the looks of it was starting out to look like a great turn out on my relationship because of my distrust in him for months turned out to be the beginning of a nice time for me.Until I woke up on a Monday and heard his phone vibrating I did let him know but he was knocked out sleeping like a baby, so I did what most women should not do I opened the text and saw a message from a woman I had known about before, but from him she was a friend of a friend from his country living in the states also. Her text wrote (Morning love bejios) my heart dropped to the floor, my tears piled like rocks, and my legs went out on me as I read the text. I woke him up, he responded like a cat purling for his love which he said was me..(Morning love) As he opened his eyes he saw my tears falling, I asked why? Why didnt you just tell me the trulth. That day and for the rest of my life I saw a man I never knew, he jumped out of bed with anger in his eyes threw my apartment key on the bar and said, "You opened my phone", this time it is over and I mean it I am never coming back to you. At first I was relieved of all the pain then suddenly I grew angry because this man had been in my life for two years around my friends, family, professors and etc..lying to everyone I found out he and her had been in an loving relationship for one year and a half, I thought to myself how so, I am very observant to such things. I remember going to his house angry I wanted all of my things I had every bought him because he did not deserve none of it, he pushed me into his clothes and I turned around swinging and puching him full of betrayal and anger I hated him. When I met the female in person she was polite, my motive was to learn everything about his other life. He told her hurtful things about me like I was desperate for his love.. but the truth I was blind is all I can say. A year is coming and my life has taken a huge turn I am in a wonderful time of my life, my career has taken a huge turn and my life is on a great start. I have never heard from him again after the huge fight..I do regret ever fighting with him because punching someone does not ease pain. I hear through others that the two of them are still together. I never understood why I was the one to end up hurt, I had my morales together I was a good woman...but life has to go on, I thank my God for opening my eyes before it was to late, I think back and realize I would have lost it all for the sake of being disobedient. I am happy and praying that oneday when the time is right and my God says this is the time that a meet a man who I call my better half to others...for now I am focusing on my career to get into MBA School of Columbia or Harvard...my life has really taken a great turn...look out world nothing will every bring me to be the person I was to him for those years, Ive learned a relationshoip is what it is a relationship, not a marriage, just within this year I have already looked back and said WOW to myself. unlike many broken hearts I do wish him and her the best, and I also thank him he made me the woman I am now:) As J says...On to the Next big accomplishments!!!