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Focus on You

Make the effort now to get yourself to a place of health and happiness — emotionally and physically. Negative spaces have been filled with positive influences, and everyone is behind you. Focus inward - get in shape, try new things, eat right, travel, read, spend time alone, meditate — show that you are ready to put your happiness first. Read more about all four phases in our Believe section. Find out more

  • Me, my kids, my baby

    • 22 May 2010
    • Posted by sandia

    I knew that by doing what I did, I was going to feel free of any attachments with this guy. So when I took my stuff back, its exactly how I felt. I still do!

    I now have all the focus on me, my kids, and my baby. When before all of my focus was on him, what he was doing, who and for how long he was txting this girls. Wondering if he would call, or say I love you. Because he claim to love me, but only call when he needed money! Never asked about the baby or how we were doing.

    Now freedom has come back to me, to us. Im smiling all the time. Im doing the things I like to do. I hang out with my children. I no longer mope around the house.

    I feel Im back to being ME!!! and it is a great feeling!!! Im ME again!! Free!!!


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    The little devil wants to come out

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    my husband says he doesn't feel comfortable sleeping with me because my friend that he has meet won't call the house, we haven't had sex in 4 months, is he really cheating and placing blame on me?

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  • Embrace Your Adversity

    All things happen for a reason. During and after the breakup this may seem like the farthest thing from the truth. Examine how and why but embrace the opportunity to reinvent yourself and become the person you were ...

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  • who? me? haha yep!

    • 16 May 2011
    • Posted by agram

    i realized im only hurtin myself worring about him.. its meeeeeee time, time to make meeee happy... even if it takes climbing a mountain to get there..

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  • im tryin

    was with this guy for a yr it was great actually it was more den great i eas in heaven..we wer truely in i thought. at the bigging of the relationship i was scared so i had my guard up he took it as i didnt...

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  • Gotta do this for meee!

    I thought I was taking every approach possible to getting my life back on track after the breakup. One last connection remained: we were facebook friends.

    He always reiterated how we were friends and h...

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  • Focusing on me

    Ive spent the past few months really focusing on myself....and it has worked wonders for my soul!!! I finally feel like i am back on my feet and looking forward to my future!

    I started a new exercise r...

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  • To wait or not to wait

    Nine months ago, I moved to NY with my boyfriend. We had been dating for around a year and a half and had been friends before that for 5 years. We lived with his friend and sister, which I believe took a toll on our...

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