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  any suggestions would be helpful

  • 30 Apr 2012
  • Posted by silverb

  my husband says he doesn't feel comfortable sleeping with me because my friend that he has meet won't call the house, we haven't had sex in 4 months, is he really cheating and placing blame on me?

  my husband says he doesn't feel comfortable sleeping with me because my friend that he has meet won't call the house, we haven't had sex in 4 months, is he really cheating and placing blame on me?

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  Embrace Your Adversity

  • 21 Feb 2012
  • Posted by bobpaff

  All things happen for a reason. During and after the breakup this may seem like the farthest thing from the truth. Examine how and why but embrace the opportunity to reinvent yourself and become the person you were ...

  All things happen for a reason. During and after the breakup this may seem like the farthest thing from the truth. Examine how and why but embrace the opportunity to reinvent yourself and become the person you were always meant to be! I'm a motivational speaker and one of my own favorite quotes is, " the tragedy in our lives defines or destroys us " Choose to move ahead! No one said it would be easy.

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  who? me? haha yep!

  • 16 May 2011
  • Posted by agram

  i realized im only hurtin myself worring about him.. its meeeeeee time, time to make meeee happy... even if it takes climbing a mountain to get there..

  i realized im only hurtin myself worring about him.. its meeeeeee time, time to make meeee happy... even if it takes climbing a mountain to get there..

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  im tryin

  • 18 Jan 2011
  • Posted by lilv701

  was with this guy for a yr it was great actually it was more den great i eas in heaven..we wer truely in love..so i thought. at the bigging of the relationship i was scared so i had my guard up he took it as i didnt...

  was with this guy for a yr it was great actually it was more den great i eas in heaven..we wer truely in love..so i thought. at the bigging of the relationship i was scared so i had my guard up he took it as i didnt care for him so after a yr i finally confesed my love to him..well i guess dats all he wanted cuz a wk later he told me he wasnt in love w me anymore..WTF!!???!!! how can u be in love w some1 one wk n not the next..so we broke up.try to keep it civil n friendly...well 6mths later he now has a new gf...n im soooo hurt...is he over me???? did our relationship mean nothing to him was it not as special as it was to me..im so confuse and hurt but so ready to move on

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  Gotta do this for meee!

  • 02 Nov 2010
  • Posted by paige9603

  I thought I was taking every approach possible to getting my life back on track after the breakup. One last connection remained: we were facebook friends.
  
  He always reiterated how we were friends and h...

  I thought I was taking every approach possible to getting my life back on track after the breakup. One last connection remained: we were facebook friends.
  
  He always reiterated how we were friends and how easy for it was for us to be just friends. Umm, maybe for him but for me? Screw that. We're not the same person. And i was still slightly bitter over how oblivious he was to making me feel.
  
  So, I wrote him a civilized, to the point, slightly mean facebook message that felt oh so good, then I deleted him. Felt sooo good!
  
  Now, I feel like i can truly move on. I dyed my hair a lighter color, lost 12 pounds(and hope to keep it off), and got a new clothing style that I love. I feel fresh and brand new and damn it feels good.
  
  I'm even going out more! I'm only in college once, I'm gonna embrace it and enjoy life. I mean, I'm paying all this tuition for it anyways. haha.
  
  Point is, I feel good and happier than when I was with him :)

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  Focusing on me

  • 15 Oct 2010
  • Posted by justbroken

  Ive spent the past few months really focusing on myself....and it has worked wonders for my soul!!! I finally feel like i am back on my feet and looking forward to my future!
  
  I started a new exercise r...

  Ive spent the past few months really focusing on myself....and it has worked wonders for my soul!!! I finally feel like i am back on my feet and looking forward to my future!
  
  I started a new exercise routine and a few other hobbies. Ive focused on spending time with my friends and doing the things i love to do.......dancing, music, and travel!!
  
  I wake every morning at peace....and its such a gift. Its been a long hard jouney to be able to say those words. And best of all, i am content being single!! I love just spending time with myself and a good book! Its such a liberating feeling to not have the NEED for a relationship.
  
  For the first time in a long time i can say, Im happy.... =))) Skys the limit!
  
  There is one point i want to drive home to others reading this post. I went back and read my first posts.....and i remember thinking back then i would never feel this way, because i was consumed in my grief. But i stuck with working the steps and mending my heart, and now here i am!
  
  Never give up on yourself or your happiness, for it is what is most important!

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  To wait or not to wait

  • 01 Oct 2010
  • Posted by mar.jfleming

  Nine months ago, I moved to NY with my boyfriend. We had been dating for around a year and a half and had been friends before that for 5 years. We lived with his friend and sister, which I believe took a toll on our...

  Nine months ago, I moved to NY with my boyfriend. We had been dating for around a year and a half and had been friends before that for 5 years. We lived with his friend and sister, which I believe took a toll on our relationship. I was away from friends and family and I needed more attention from him. Our work and school schedules did not permit us much free time and when I wanted to spend time with him, he'd choose video games or sports instead. After months of fighting, we decided we were going to move home together. He explained how much he missed home and how it would be better for our relationship. I was very excited to move home because I thought our relationship could go back to the way it was. At the time we made this decision, we already had a two week trip back home coming up. During our trip home, we fought more than ever but made up the last few days and things were great. I ended up staying home, not going back to NY. He was going to go back, pack up all of our things and come home a few weeks later. Well, now it's been 3 months since I've seen him and we've broken up because I don't want to be in a long distance relationship. He tells me he doesn't want to lose me in his life and that when he returns, we can start fresh and that this time apart will show us if we are "meant to be together". The problem is he will not make plans to come home. He says he cannot make that decision right now. My dilemma is that I don't know if I should give him this time to get his life together, support him, and be here for him when he gets back? Or if this is a situation where he is being selfish by making me wait and I should move on? I miss him and love him very much, but I know that the situation I am in is not good. I've gone back and forth talking to him and completely cutting off contact. When we talk, I get angry at him for not coming home and when I don't talk to him, I'm sad because I miss him. He also tells me he doesnt want to hold me back and he'll respect me if I decide to move on. Please give me some advice on holding on to this relationship or moving on.

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  I may be a succubus but i'm still capable of love.

  • 24 Aug 2010
  • Posted by broken mantra

  Over the last year I learned a TON about myself. I figured out why all of my relationships exploded when things got heavy, got answers to why I would just feel like the world was ending and there was no hope for an...

  Over the last year I learned a TON about myself. I figured out why all of my relationships exploded when things got heavy, got answers to why I would just feel like the world was ending and there was no hope for anything anymore. I was manic depressive the entire time! Now i'm on medication and still going to therapy. I avoid things that are really bad for me because I have an addictive personality and those things are my depressive triggers, i mean i smoke but i don't drink or anything like that.
  I started working out and just overall really getting engaged in life. Which is absolutely amazing. All the people in my life that were there but only half noticed, those are amazing people! Now I have more friends than I think i've ever had. I'm doing things I never thought i would have the gaul to do. And even though the future still scares me a little bit, i'm ready to get a peek.
  It's just good, an amazing feeling to know that what you're doing is all for you. like all the little bricks of the house of me i'm finally discovering and that is absolutely stellar.

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