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image The 10 Worst Ways to Break Up with Someone 08 Mar 2010 08:03 AM
In the coming week, we'll be writing an article on the worst possible ways to break up with someone. (i.e. in a text message, at a family event, etc.) Anything goes - tell us some of the worst you've heard, or been through...
 
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image   08 Mar 2010 11:15 PM
Mine was definitely one of them.
My boyfriend and I had taken a month break from each other to decide where we wanted the relationship to go. Three weeks before the date we were supposed to resume speaking with each other I decided to call him because I had missed him terribly. We spoke briefly but I could sense that something wasn't right. He had some things to attend to so he asked if he could call me the next day.
The following night. He called me sounding very low. I didn't realize that he was crying on the phone as I thought he was getting the flu. He then proceeded to tell me that he couldn't see a future with us ever and that he didn't know why. He never said that we were 'broken up' but said we should date other people. I had to ask him if he was really breaking up with me over the phone as I couldn't believe that he was doing this to me. I asked him how could he have done such a thing over the phone and he replied by saying that he would cry if he told it to my face.
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image   21 Mar 2010 02:02 PM
i was married for 12 years
we were together for 15 years raised a blended family of 4
after all the kids were moved out
he was going to go hunting so i decided to go see my sister
when i came home - he didnt go hunting he moved and left it up to my son to tell
he didnt even have the guts to tell me himself
i filed for divorce a week later
then he tells me he didnt want a divorce
(shaking my head) he said he just didnt want to live for a family anymore
well now his son and girlfriend has moved in with him

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image   22 Mar 2010 03:09 AM
I was married for 8 1/2 months. We had problems but we were working though them and I thought we were getting stronger. We eloped so we were planning a wedding on our 1 year anniversary. I work graveyards and right before I left for work my husband told me he would love to remarry me. At work we test back and forth about details (he was unemployed so was able to stay up all night). He even said he would go with me to try on wedding dresses with me after I napped. Last text I got was "Get home safe." I got home and he was gone. He moved out and in with another woman and he left a typed note on the dining table saying he would call when he was ready to discuss a divorce. I had no idea and I was on cloud nine with all the wedding plans. And he left...I filed for divorce 3 days later.
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image   22 Mar 2010 06:31 AM
I think the worst way of breaking up with someone is just leaving with all of your stuff, and no note, no explanation, nothing. Even a text message would be better than that. My ex-husband took off, never told me he was packing up his stuff, just left for another state. I had a hard time getting a hold of him to find out where he was, and he only communicated with me through friends. That is a first-class coward!
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image   22 Mar 2010 06:32 AM
I was married for 8 1/2 months. We had problems but we were working though them and I thought we were getting stronger. We eloped so we were planning a wedding on our 1 year anniversary. I work graveyards and right before I left for work my husband told me he would love to remarry me. At work we test back and forth about details (he was unemployed so was able to stay up all night). He even said he would go with me to try on wedding dresses with me after I napped. Last text I got was "Get home safe." I got home and he was gone. He moved out and in with another woman and he left a typed note on the dining table saying he would call when he was ready to discuss a divorce. I had no idea and I was on cloud nine with all the wedding plans. And he left...I filed for divorce 3 days later.
Hi jcolt07 - that is really terrible, and so mean :-(
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image   22 Mar 2010 06:34 AM
i was married for 12 years
we were together for 15 years raised a blended family of 4
after all the kids were moved out
he was going to go hunting so i decided to go see my sister
when i came home - he didnt go hunting he moved and left it up to my son to tell
he didnt even have the guts to tell me himself
i filed for divorce a week later
then he tells me he didnt want a divorce
(shaking my head) he said he just didnt want to live for a family anymore
well now his son and girlfriend has moved in with him

How frustrating! My ex-husband did that to me too. When I filed for divorce, he was "speechless" and "shocked." When HE was the one who moved all of his stuff out. He said, "I wasn't expecting that." WELL, what WERE you expecting??? I don't like the "clueless" game that men sometimes play.
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image   22 Mar 2010 02:39 PM
I think the worst way of breaking up with someone is just leaving with all of your stuff, and no note, no explanation, nothing. Even a text message would be better than that. My ex-husband took off, never told me he was packing up his stuff, just left for another state. I had a hard time getting a hold of him to find out where he was, and he only communicated with me through friends. That is a first-class coward!
well i guess then mine is a second class coward because he didnt move out state
i wish he would have
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image   22 Mar 2010 02:41 PM
How frustrating! My ex-husband did that to me too. When I filed for divorce, he was "speechless" and "shocked." When HE was the one who moved all of his stuff out. He said, "I wasn't expecting that." WELL, what WERE you expecting??? I don't like the "clueless" game that men sometimes play.
yeah that was the response i got too
he was speechless
he didnt think i would do it
men i still wonder about them
is it too late to become a nun?
ha ha
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image   26 Mar 2010 01:25 PM
I really thought mine was one of the worst horrible ways.. one day i was dating him the next day i thought we were still dating and he was kissing my "friend" so yeah, we were broken up. not one word exchanged but they didnt need to be, his actions definetely said "broken up"
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image   26 Mar 2010 04:14 PM
Mine was definitely one of them.
My boyfriend and I had taken a month break from each other to decide where we wanted the relationship to go. Three weeks before the date we were supposed to resume speaking with each other I decided to call him because I had missed him terribly. We spoke briefly but I could sense that something wasn't right. He had some things to attend to so he asked if he could call me the next day.
The following night. He called me sounding very low. I didn't realize that he was crying on the phone as I thought he was getting the flu. He then proceeded to tell me that he couldn't see a future with us ever and that he didn't know why. He never said that we were 'broken up' but said we should date other people. I had to ask him if he was really breaking up with me over the phone as I couldn't believe that he was doing this to me. I asked him how could he have done such a thing over the phone and he replied by saying that he would cry if he told it to my face.
well that is better than what i got
i came home and he was gone
with his stuff and my stuff and my kids stuff
i filed for divorce a week later
it sucks
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