You searched the world for "the one" ever since the day you heard your first love story. You wanted someone who could tear down the walls of defenses and make you feel whole. Then, one day, when you weren't even looking, you thought you found it. This person seemed perfect and was so quick to consume all the love you had to give. For the sake of love you gave everything, and now it seems there ...

You searched the world for "the one" ever since the day you heard your first love story. You wanted someone who could tear down the walls of defenses and make you feel whole. Then, one day, when you weren't even looking, you thought you found it. This person seemed perfect and was so quick to consume all the love you had to give. For the sake of love you gave everything, and now it seems there is nothing left to give. Now that you are left with nothing, can you blame the one for consuming everything?

Of course you have to move on, but how can you when all the goodness inside feels like it has been devoured? A narcissist will drive you into an illusion of romance and leave you tangled in a web of deceit. Recovering from dating a narcissist can seem nearly impossible, but it can be done once you fully understand its impact. Narcissistic abuse doesn't just happen mentally and emotionally; the abuse is much deeper than that. In reality, a part of you is missing because you have given so much love and not received any back.

When we enter into romantic relationships we connect ourselves to other person on a soul level, an energetic thread has been attached to the other person. Whether you see it or not you will definitely feel it. For example, that person is always on your mind, you may even obsess about them, or you might be able to feel them intuitively to some degree. Sometimes the tail-end of one sided relationships can leave us feeling drained. When the relationship isn't serving you, in order to gain your power back, you must learn to cut energetic soul ties.

Get into a comfortable space in your mind and visualize a thread being attached to the other person. Take a deep breath and feel your body. Imagine the cord coming from your heart into the chest of the other person. Keep breathing and sink lower into your body until you are at a fully relaxed state. When you feel the time is right, cut the cord with your hand, an imaginary sword, or whatever image works for you. Keep trying this exercise until you regain your power back in your body. You may feel an arrange of emotions after doing this exercise and some feelings may be uncomfortable, but note that your body is just releasing the negative.

If this doesn't resonate with you, try to understand that we live in a narcissistic culture. Our culture thrives on materialism, success and outer beauty. It's easy for someone to go with the flow of society and love only themselves. Only the courageous really know how to love others.

Erin is a spiritual director and writer with a passion for health and healing. More of Erin's writing can be found on her website Moxxy Girl, a movement created to help others obtain a way of being that is more expressive and explorative.