Is it really possible for me to leave the past in the past and move on? Deep down this is a question a lot of divorced parents ask themselves - even after they've remarried!! Here's what I mean... * Have I really changed for the better? * Am I going to be able to do things differently this time? * Are the hurts really forgiven? ...

Is it really possible for me to leave the past in the past and move on? Deep down this is a question a lot of divorced parents ask themselves - even after they've remarried!!

Here's what I mean...

* Have I really changed for the better?

* Am I going to be able to do things differently this time?

* Are the hurts really forgiven?

Have you found yourself asking any of these questions? Don't worry, you're not crazy! They're typical questions I hear my clients ask everyday!

Let's take a look at each one and discuss how you can KNOW you've moved on.

Have I really changed for the better? Take an honest personal inventory. What have you done to focus on yourself and make improvements. Can you reflect back on your previous marriage and identify where things went wrong? Can you see where both of you contributed to the ending of the marriage?

If all you can see is what your ex did wrong, I'd encourage you to keep working on yourself. You're not quite there yet. A marriage is comprised of two and two are responsible for it ending. Bear in mind, I'm not saying the "blame" is 50/50, but both of you had a part in it.

Am I going to be able to do things differently this time? Again, I ask you to look toward your ex-spouse. How well do the two of you do with co-parenting? As far as it is in your control, can you work with your ex for the benefit of your children? If you can't get your emotions out of the way so you can do what's in the best interest of your own children, how do expect that you'll be able to fully give yourself to a new partner?

For those of you who have ex-spouses who refuse to co-parent with you, look at what you've done to help your children through the changes that occurred after divorce. Again, if you can't get out of the way for your own children, you're not ready to take on another person.

Are the hurts really forgiven? - Take a second and think about your feelings toward your ex-spouse. If a flush of emotion just hit you, odds are you still have some work to do.

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