You have come to accept that the relationship with the last love of your life is now over, and you are waiting for your new love to come. The people you are trying to date are either unavailable or you aren’t that into them. You are in a dry spell and no one is asking you out, or you are frustrated because no one is grabbing your attention. You can’t help but wonder..."WILL I EVER FIND LOVE...
You have come to accept that the relationship with the last love of your life is now over, and you are waiting for your new love to come. The people you are trying to date are either unavailable or you aren’t that into them. You are in a dry spell and no one is asking you out, or you are frustrated because no one is grabbing your attention. You can’t help but wonder..."WILL I EVER FIND LOVE AGAIN?"
Here are 5 reasons why you WILL find love again, and why it sometimes takes the time that it does:
1.) Love comes when you are ready. If you use this dry spell as a time to grow, expand your heart, develop better relationship skills with the people that ARE in your life and get clearer about what you want, then, when your next love opportunity comes – you will be ready! Yes, you probably think you ARE ready! You may want it SO much… But if you were, the next relationship would probably have already presented itself to you. Get prepared. Really get to know yourself to create the relationship you want.
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2.) Remember you aren’t alone in this search: The man you are waiting for is also waiting for you, but there are things he may have to do first. He may need to date other women to gain more experience in preparation for you. He may need to get his finances in order, heal from his past relationship, focus on his career or sew his wild oats. He may need to realize he no longer wants to date 20 year olds and he’s tired of meeting women at bars… THEN YOU CAN ENTER INTO THE PICTURE!
3.) Time used wisely while you are alone makes you more desirable. When you focus your alone time on becoming more whole, healthy and balanced inside, you learn to not rely on another person to fulfill all of your needs. This will make anyone much more attracted to you. It’s not about carrying an attitude of “I don’t need you”. It’s about learning how to fully love yourself so that you have an abundance of love to offer and can receive love fully. A big bonus is that when you become more whole emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually you will magnetize someone to you who is also more whole.
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4.) Love comes when you least expect it. The fireworks won’t come if you are standing on a street corner waiting for it. Remember there is a natural timing for everything. All the roads are taking you to the right place at the right time. If you feel impatient and try to force what you think you want to come too early, you could sabotage the experience. Let your path unfold as it unfolds and trust the timing as divinely perfect. There is no way to know why love hasn’t come yet and why it is taking the time that it is. The reward will be all the better when you appreciate the nature of good timing.
5.) In the grand scheme of life, a few weeks, months or even years are a minor fragment of the whole picture. Yes, it may be super frustrating and feel unbearable to have to wait. But, when you meet the love of your life, the time of the past will soon be forgotten. You may never forget the hardship of your time alone and the pain of wondering if love will ever come, but once it comes – AND IT WILL COME -- you will be grateful for the now. Your focus will be on building a future and the past will simply no longer matter.
Lynn Zavaro has emerged as a defining voice in the art of guiding others to know themselves and create the life they’ve always wanted. She has a Masters degree in Counseling Psychology and counsels individuals, couples, children and youth groups. Her book and card deck set, The Game of You™ offers a powerful, profound and FUN experience of self-discovery and transformation. Learn to resolve daily issues, develop better relationships, and come to better understand your life’s path. Try the online version.
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will ill ever find love,
just so nice to read this article its an eye opening for whoever is searching .
inspiring
well, this can be helpful. . .
nice article
i've read about this article and i'm so enlighten. it's all so true.... and i do believe also that true love can wait... and that GOD has his perfect timing. HE is just preparing a perfect person for us with special...
Bravo Lynn
OK, I totally cried while reading this. Speaking of timing, this article was right on and just the answers to my questions. GOD bless you!! of a great truth is this, thanks for sharing!!
great!
Great article. This is all so true. Time alone can be a gift - use it!