As the year rounds out and the holiday season is upon us, finding a relationship seems to be on the top of everyone’s list, well, besides finding that perfect cookie recipe. We want to be able to share Christmas and New Year’s Eve with somebody special and the need for a romantic companion gets more intense with each passing day.   But, what if we cannot find someone ne...

As the year rounds out and the holiday season is upon us, finding a relationship seems to be on the top of everyone’s list, well, besides finding that perfect cookie recipe. We want to be able to share Christmas and New Year’s Eve with somebody special and the need for a romantic companion gets more intense with each passing day.

But, what if we cannot find someone new in such a short period of time? Must we rifle through our little black book and bring an old flame back into play? It got me to think: is it ever a good idea to bring our exes back?

So, why not? You already have a history with your ex. You know them and it is easier to have the familiarity and comfort of someone instead of starting all over with someone new. Perhaps you spent the holidays together last year and have some traditions that you wish to continue this year. Or maybe you feel that you didn’t give them a chance and possibly they could be the one.

While those reasons all seem logical, we stand our ground and say don't do it! It is almost always a bad idea to re-date your ex. You don’t go back to the Good Will store to re-buy those jeans you thought you would never wear. So don’t let the pressure of the holidays make you think that you need someone. Remember, we have to find peace and love with ourselves before we can share it with someone else. Do not rush into something just so you have someone to kiss at midnight.

Although saying yes and bringing your ex back does seem like the easy solution, we should not give up on the chance of finding a new, fresh relationship. We know dating is exhausting, but taking the time to get to know someone brand new has its rewards. We don’t want to get stuck in the same rut we did with the last relationship. Because, after all, there was a reason it ended.

So this holiday season, we give you full permission to re-gift. Just not to re-date.