Send what you want to say to your ex to: myex@bounceback.com     "You've broken up. There's nothing more to say." At least, that's what someone who isn't going through a breakup or divorce would say. But you, as the ...

Send what you want to say to your ex to: myex@bounceback.com  

"You've broken up. There's nothing more to say." At least, that's what someone who isn't going through a breakup or divorce would say. But you, as the person feeling the heartache, may think otherwise. You have so much left inside of you that you just have to get out. You want the last word.

If your friends or family are saying, "What's the problem with writing your ex? Go ahead. If you have something to say, you should say it," or any form of that quotation, take a step back. Think about whether you really want your ex to hear what you have to say, or whether it's more about getting something off your chest.

In most cases, regardless of what you say, you're not going to get the response you are hoping for, if you get any at all. The reality is that if your ex were able to respond with what you want and need to hear, then you'd probably still be with him or her. Remind yourself of that - there's a reason why things didn't work out, and you're not going to get what you need in one back-and-forth interaction. Not to mention you'll save yourself potential embarrassment or regret and the annoyance of checking your phone or refreshing your inbox every 2 minutes to see if you've gotten a response. You don't need that added stress.

But what you do need is closure. It's fair to want the last word, and it's understandable to have thoughts and feelings that haven't been addressed or are unresolved. It's completely okay that you WANT to call his sister or her best friend and reveal all the terrible things that your ex did - just don't actually DO it. Trust us.

That's where we come in. The first phase of bouncing back is Releasing the Negative - cleaning the slate, getting out all of your negative energy so that you can focus on the positive aspects in your life, most importantly, yourself. And part of that negative energy includes all of the lingering feelings and thoughts about your past relationship, which, let's face it, is in the past.

So, we created the MyEx Mailbox - a confidential place where you say all the things you wished you could say to your ex, but know better than to actually send it to him or her. Write it down - directed at your ex, as if you're actually sending it to him or her, but send it to us. Just hitting "send" and knowing someone will be reading your thoughts will feel therapeutic enough to get you past this tough step and ready to start embracing the positive.

So send away! Write your ex (us) at myex@bounceback.com. Please don't use any last names, and keep it clean. We will not reveal your name or any details about you, but we'll share some of our favorites with our members.

Get that last word in, get the closure you need, and get ready to start bouncing back!